Our boys whom we sent to the universities to study are now living in hotels doing “Yahoo”, defrauding people.
They are not studying. They are “sorting”. Bribing lecturers to pass.
They only come to campus in convoys once in a while to show off. Guess what?
Some lecturers are even worshipping them.
Our teenage sons are now driving Benz Cars in the university. They are now “happening guys” on campus.
The houses our sons in universities are living in now are flats and duplexes as against the self-contained that we used to know.
Well furnished and so beautiful like the home of some state governors.
Our sons are all married in the university but single at home.
Girls swarm around them… living with them, cooking for them, doing all sorts of things with them and for them…..
These girls are our daughters whom we sent to the universities to study.
They are in every club and hotel in town….they are found in front of exotic cars, fastening seatbelts, taking selfies, recording short videos and moving their tongues and lips like DOGS.
My recent research in Nigerian universities opened my eyes to this current ugly reality. I wept for the future.
These are teenagers, not even adults. Guess what?
We still see them as children who know nothing.
I don’t want to mention names of hotels in IBADAN, LAGOS, IJEBU-ODE, ABEOKUTA, AKURE, EKITI STATE, etc where you will see your sons and daughters. They have been living there for weeks if not months.
They are not going to school. “Who school help?” Don’t you get it?
These teenagers— boys and girls are abusing drugs. Not just hemp (igbo) but cocaine, tramadols and other terrible ones.
I had once boarded a vehicle with a young girl in AGO-IWOYE who had some crack (cocaine) in her purse.
For a reason l did not know, the police officer that stopped us for a search didn’t search her but searched every other passenger.
On the way, she brought out a drug, gently sniffed some and threw out the remaining through the window.
I looked at her and paused, she also paused; both of us paused. I remained deaf and dumb until I got to my destination.
Who will save this generation who painfully are our tomorrow and future of this country?
WE ARE SADLY KEEPING TOO QUIET!
EKÚN ÒLA!
May God beautify our characters and the characters of our children.
.ADEGBORO left Ibadan for Lagos in search of greener pasture. He chose to be carrying loads (Alabaru) on his head at Oyingbo market to earn a living. Few years after, he bought a cart from his savings and this eased the pain of carrying loads on his head for commercial purposes. The Cart also increased his income and he was able to acquire 6 more of its kind which he rented out to others. Exactly 8 years in this cart pushing business, Adegboro bought a van which many called BOLEKAJA and learning how to drive, he handled the business by himself. 4 years into the Bolekaja business, Adegboro had been a proud owner of 6 Vans. Being a bona fide Ibadan son, (omo bibi ilu Ibadan) ADEGBORO built a magnificent building at OJA OBA where the Olubadan Palace was situated when it was time to put a roof on his head. Many people at this period approached Adegboro to show them the secret behind his success. He simply asked them if they could carry loads on their heads in the market to earn income (alabaru)? And their response had always been “NEVER”. He too would spontaneously say “ENI TI O LE SE ALABARU L’OYINGBO, KO LE SE BI ADEGBORO L’OJA OBA” – this is a replica of the adage also in Yoruba land that says; “ÌSASÙN tabi IKOKO TI YIO J’ATA (OBE), IDI RE A GBONA”. (A pot that wants to consume a palatable soup must have its bottom burnt or heated with fire first). In Life, to endure is to achieve. No short cut is sustainable. Enduring wealth is built over time in a small bit but in a persistent way. Ę FEYIKOGBON OOO!!!
The true story of the separation of Olori Naomi and her former Husband; Ooni Adeyeye Enitan Ogunwusi Ojaja II, the Ooni of Ife, has been revealed.
It’s all about money and business transaction!
Ooni gave a site project to Naomi’s brother; Gbenro Ogunseyi. The project which was later withdrawn from him on the allegations of mismanagement of 1.2 Billion naira.
Gbenro severally led thugs to disrupt work at the site
Ooni asked Olori and her mother to caution Gbenro against his unruly behaviors
The Olori and her mother took side with Gbenro against Ooni
Ooni banished Gbenro and her mother from the palace
Olori Naomi insisted that she could not do without her mother and siblings at the palace
Olori refused to be at the palace for the Ooni’s 6th Coronation Anniversary on the excuse that she couldn’t be without her mother and brother
Ooni bought a car for the Olori few days ago which was delivered to her yesterday, same day she announced the so called separation
Ooni is only a victim of his flexibility and over simplicity!
BREAKING!!! Man sees dead wife with another man in Asaba One Ochuko Oshevire from Delta State caused a lot of traffic today at Nnebisi Road by Konwea. Mr Ochuko said he came into Asaba On Monday for an Interview at General Hospital behind Mac Dons and decided to move around to see how Asaba looks like.
He was in Keke in Okpanama Road when he sighted his wife that died 3yrs ago in his hometown.
According to him, “My wife died of asthma 3yrs ago and had since been buried but am surprised to see her in Keke here in ASABA at first I hesitated, then I told my Keke man to follow her Keke to this place where she stopped, I summoned courage and called her by name, she turned, look at me and disappeared”.
The man who was with her in the Keke fainted twice. After he was resuscitated, he narrated his story saying he had lived with her for more than a year.
He also said they met in church and he later proposed to her and she accepted. These are the kind of stories I write when I am hungry.
How can Gas and beans be that expensive In this our Nigeria? If you wan vex vex e nor conzin me
1. Keep Expectations Realistic. No one can be everything we might want them to be. Healthy relationships mean accepting people as they are and not trying to change them.
2. Talk with each other. It can’t be said enough: communication is essential to healthy relationships
Take the time: Really be there for one another
Genuinely listen : Do not interrupt or plan what you’re going to say next. Try to fully understand their perspective.
Ask questions : Show you are interested. Ask about their experiences, feelings, opinions, and interests.
Share information: Studies show that sharing information helps relationships begin. Let people know who you are, but don’t overwhelm with too much personal information too soon.
3. Be flexible. It is natural to feel uneasy about changes. Healthy relationships allow for change and growth.
4. Take care of yourself too. Healthy relationships are mutual, with room for both people’s needs.
5. Be dependable. If you make plans with someone, follow through. If you take on a responsibility, complete it. Healthy relationships are trustworthy.
6. Fight fair. Most relationships have some conflict. It only means you disagree about something; it does not have to mean you don’t like each other.
This part is very important in the life of relationship partners. Let me break it down now :
Point one : Cool down before talking. The conversation will be more productive if you have it when your emotions have cooled off a little, so you don’t say something you may regret later.
Point two : Use “I statements.” Share how you feel and what you want without assigning blame or motives. for example : “When you don’t call me, I start to feel like you don’t care about me” vs. “You never call me when you’re away. I guess I’m the only one who cares about this relationship.”
Point three : Keep your language clear and specific. Try to factually describe behavior that you are upset with, avoiding criticism and judgment. Attack the problem, not the person.
Point four : Focus on the current issue. The conversation is likely to get bogged down if you pile on everything that bothers you. Avoid using “always” and “never” language and address one issue at a time.
Point five : Take responsibility for mistakes. Apologize if you have done something wrong; it goes a long way toward setting things right again.
Point six : which is the last but not the least, Recognize some problems are not easily solved. Not all differences or difficulties can be resolved. You are different people, and your values, beliefs, habits, and personality may not always be in alignment. Communication goes a long way toward helping you understand each other and address concerns, but some things are deeply rooted and may not change significantly. It is important to figure out for yourself what you can accept, or when a relationship is no longer healthy for you.
Be affirming : According to relationship researcher John Gottman, happy couples have a ratio of 5 positive interactions or feelings for every 1 negative interaction or feeling. Express warmth and affection!
Keep your life balanced. Other people help make our lives satisfying but they cannot meet every need. Find what interests you and become involved. Healthy relationships have room for outside activities.
It’s a process. It might look like everyone on campus is confident and connected, but most people share concerns about fitting in and getting along with others. It takes time to meet people and get to know them. Healthy relationships can be learned and practiced, and keep getting better. Kindly NOTE
Be yourself! It’s much easier and more fun to be authentic than to pretend to be something or someone else. Healthy relationships are made of real people. Very important Please
In C & S churches today I see many people running after prophets to lay hands on them or ordain them as Apostle or Reverend mother yet this men of God don’t know you well, they only minister to you they never train you. it’s wrong and UNSCRIPTURAL!
Laying of hands on your head to anoint you must be from a man or woman of God who have trained you and discipled you and knows your growth in Christ not just someone that you met and because the person is anointed you told them to ordain you or lay hands on you so you can grow in spirit, it’s wrong!
If you’re called to come and ordain some people or maybe someone who love your ministry ask you to come and ordain them , yet you have not discipled them. you only met on two or three event yet they want you to lay hand on them and anoint them follow what Paul instruct Timothy .
Paul wrote this to Timothy: 1 Timothy 5:22, KJV: “Lay hands suddenly on no man, neither be partaker of other men’s sins: keep thyself pure.” Timothy is to be very careful in selecting elders. Haste, in the sense of careless rushing, is often spoken against in Proverbs (Proverbs 14:29; 21:5; 29:20).
Apparently, laying on of hands was a common tradition during this era for confirming elders in the local church. It was also a tradition that Timothy had experienced (1 Timothy 1:14), including the hands of Paul (2 Timothy 1:6), likely in Lystra before first traveling with him (Acts 16). This tradition of laying hands on leaders was certainly picked up from the Jewish tradition of setting apart leaders in the Old Testament (such as Moses and Joshua in Numbers 27:18–23).
Timothy is to select elders based on Paul’s prior instructions (1 Timothy 3:1–7). He is not to participate in, or even be associated with, the sins of others. Paul likely had the false teachers of Ephesus in mind here, since these men wanted to lead yet were unfit to do so (1 Timothy 1:7). Instead, Timothy was to “keep [himself] pure,” a common command given to believers (1 Timothy 1:5; James 1:27).
What does the Bible teach about “the laying on of hands,” and how should this ancient ritual function, or not, in the church today?
Like anointing with oil, much confusion often surrounds these outward signs which the New Testament has very little (but something) to say.
Like fasting, the laying on of hands and anointing with oil go hand in hand with prayer. Because of the way God has made the world, and wired our own hearts, on certain special occasions we reach for something tangible, physical, and visible to complement, or serve as a sign of, what is happening invisibly and what we’re capturing with invisible words.
While the majority of Old-Testament mentions involve priests and first-covenant ceremonies (passing the curse to the substitute), two texts in particular (both in Numbers) anticipate how “the laying on of hands” would come to be used in the church age (passing a blessing to a formally recognized leader). In Numbers 8:10, God’s people lay their hands on the priests to officially commission them as their representatives before God, and in Numbers 27:18, God instructs Moses to lay his hands on Joshua to commission him formally as the new leader of the nation.
Jesus’s most common practice in healing is touch, often described as “laying his hands on” the one to be healed (Matthew 9:18; Mark 5:23; 6:5; 7:32; 8:22–25; Luke 13:13). Jesus also “lays his hands” on the little children who come to him, to bless them (Matthew 19:13–15; Mark 10:16).
In Acts, once Jesus has ascended into heaven, his apostles (in effect) become his hands. Now they, like their Lord, heal with touch. Ananias “lays his hands” on Paul, three days after the Damascus road encounter, to restore his sight (Acts 9:12, 17). And Paul’s hands, in turn, become channels of extraordinary miracles (Acts 14:3; 19:11), including the laying of his hands on a sick man on Malta to heal him (Acts 28:8).
What’s new in the Gospels is Jesus’s healing through “the laying on of hands,” but what’s new in Acts is the giving and receiving of the Holy Spirit through “the laying on of hands.” As the gospel makes progress from Jerusalem and Judea, to Samaria, and then beyond, to the ends of the earth (Acts 1:8), God is pleased to use the apostles’ laying on of hands as a visible marker and means of the coming of the Spirit among new people and places — first in Samaria (Acts 8:17) and then beyond, in Ephesus (19:6).
In the Church Today
Finally, in the New Testament Epistles, as we begin to see what is normative in the church today, we find two remaining uses from Acts which echo the two mentions above in Numbers (8:10 and 27:18), and set the course for Paul’s references in 1 and 2 Timothy.
In Acts 6:6, when the church has chosen seven men to serve as official assistants to the apostles, “These they set before the apostles, and they prayed and laid their hands on them.” Here again, as in Numbers, we find a kind of commissioning ceremony. The visible sign of the laying on of hands publicly marks the beginning of a new formal ministry for these seven, recognizing them before the people and asking for God’s blessing on their labors.
So also, when the church responds to the Spirit’s directive, “Set apart for me Barnabas and Saul for the work to which I have called them” (Acts 13:2), then “after fasting and praying they laid their hands on them and sent them off” (Acts 13:3). Like Acts 6:6, this is a formal commission performed in public, with the collective request for God’s blessing on it.
Commission to Ministry
In 1 Timothy 4:14, Paul charges Timothy, his official delegate in Ephesus,
Do not neglect the gift you have, which was given you by prophecy when the council of elders laid their hands on you.
For our purposes here, the point is not precisely what gift Timothy received (though both the previous and following verses mention teaching), but how the elders commissioned him into his formal role. Timothy was sent off for this specific assignment with the public recognition of the recognized leaders — not only by their words, but through the visible, tangible, memorable laying on of their hands. This public ceremony may be what Paul refers to in 2 Timothy 1:6 when he mentions a gift of God in Timothy “through the laying on of my hands.”
The last key text, and perhaps most instructive, is also in 1 Timothy. Again Paul writes,
Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, nor take part in the sins of others; keep yourself pure. (1 Timothy 5:22)
Now the subject is not Timothy’s own commissioning, but his part in commissioning others. The charge from Paul comes in a section about elders, honoring the good and disciplining the bad (1 Timothy 5:17–25). When leaders like Paul, Timothy, and others in the church formally lay their hands on someone for a particular new ministry calling, they put their seal of approval on the candidate and share, in some sense, in the fruitfulness and failures to come.
Laying on of hands, then, is the opposite of washing one’s hands like Pilate did. When the elders lay their hands on a candidate for ministry, they both commission him to a particular role of service and they commend him to those among whom he will serve.
God Gives the Grace
With both the laying on of hands and anointing with oil, the elders come before God, in special circumstances, with a spirit of prayer and particular requests, but whereas anointing with oil asks for healing, the laying on of hands asks for blessing on forthcoming ministry. Anointing with oil in James 5:14 privately commends the sick to God for healing; the laying on of hands in 1 Timothy 5:22 publicly commends the candidate to the church for an official ministry. Anointing sets the sick apart and expresses the need for God’s special care. Laying on hands sets apart a qualified leader for specific ministry and signals fitness to bless others.
Laying on of hands, then — like anointing or fasting or other external rituals for the church — is not magic and does not, as some claim, automatically confer grace. Rather, it is a “means of grace,” and accompanies words of commendation and corporate prayer, for those who believe. Like baptism, the laying on of hands is a kind of inaugural sign and ceremony, an initiating rite — a way of making an invisible reality visible, public, and memorable, both for the candidate and for the congregation, and then through the candidate and congregation to the world.
It serves as a means of grace to the candidate in affirming God’s call through the church and in providing a tangible, physical moment to remember when ministry gets hard. It’s also a means of God’s grace to the commissioning leaders, who extend and expand their heart and work through a faithful candidate. And it’s a means of God’s grace to the congregation, and beyond, in clarifying who are the official leaders to whom they will seek to submit to (Hebrews 13:7, 17).
And in it all, the giver and blesser is God. He extends and expands the ministry of the leaders. He calls, sustains, and makes fruitful the ministry of the candidate. And he enriches, matures, and catalyzes the congregation to love and good works, to minister to each other, and beyond, served by the teaching, wisdom, and faithful leadership of the newly appointed elder, deacon, or missionary.
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